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I've been thinking about work lately. And lack of candor...
Somehow candor is being misconstrued as "aggressiveness" or "rudeness". Candor just unnerves people. Lack of candor basically blocks smart ideas, fast action, and good people contributing all the stuff they've got. It's a killer. When you've got candor - and you'll never completely get it, mind you - everything just operates faster and better. I am talking about how many people too often instinctively don't express themselves with frankness. Lately, I have to admit I am one of them.
First and foremost, candor gets more people in the conversation, and when you get more people in the conversation, to state the obvious you get more and better ideas. By that, I mean many more ideas get surfaced, discussed, pulled apart, and improved. I've been shutting down lately. Why? Many of the meetings lately feel like undergoing "Distributed Denial of Service Attack (DDOS)", some dude immediately needs to cut through and express his opinion, no matter how relevant or irrelevant it is at the time. But that's a separate subject.
Eventually, you come to realize that you don't speak your mind because it's simply easier not to. When you tell it like it is, you can so easily create a mess - anger, pain ,confusion, sadness, resentment. To make matters worse, you then feel compelled to clean up that mess, which can be awkward and time-consuming. So you justify your lack of candor on the grounds that is prevents sadness or pain in another person, that not saying anything or telling a little white lie is the kind, decent thing to do.
Yes, candor is against human nature. So is running for 128 days every day :) But the good thing about candor is that it's an unnatural act that is more than worth it.
I think so.
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